How To Be Romantic When You’re Not

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Written By Alexis

Alexis has 7 years of experience as a relationship therapist, a degree in psychology, and a deep personal understanding of human relationships.

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The word romantic is rooted in the Latin word Romanus or Romanicus, which translates to “Roman” or “from Rome.” It, over time, becomes associated with love stories.

Becoming romantic isn’t superficial. It is being made out of ordinariness. There are salient ways on how to be romantic when you’re not in a relationship you need to consider and practice.

Being romantic is about expressing love and affection in a romantic way that is profoundly affectionate and intentional. Being romantic isn’t made out of a vacuum.

As humans naturally crave to be cared for, cherished and accepted, one must be equipped to dish out the same to get the likes.

So, as you know, it is one thing to engage in love affairs; staying up with the task and committing to the necessary rite relationship demands is another.

One of the core demands of a relationship is being romantic with your partner. Taking time to add romantic pleasure to your relationship is vital to making it healthy and happy.

Partners must pay attention to injecting romantic activities into their love adventure.

If not, they may feel unstable and uninspired, leading to cheating if the romantic activities are one-sided.

You don’t need to go out of the ordinary to be happily romantic. Little things count.

So, how do you add a glamorous relationship to your love? Or how to be romantic in a relationship when you are not?

There are minor but significant romantic ideas for your partner to make your love affairs deem than ever thought.

How to be romantic when you’re not in a relationship

1. Be happy and open-minded

You can’t easily make people around you happy when you are having a face-off with happiness.

It is usual for challenges of life to happen and make you unhappy but finding a way not to let challenges be the yardstick of your happy life is the ultimate to a beginning relationship that is romantic and full of premium glamour.

A happy person will make their partner happy too.

You need to consider and address depression, anxiety, low self-esteem or inadequate communication that you might probably be battling.

Addressing these will naturally bring about happiness in your life, which is the only way you can be open to other ways of being a romantic partner.

2. Be affectionate and consistent

We are all human beings with feelings and emotions. We all want to be cared for and treated specially.

You can love your partner wholeheartedly, but the love is germane if only you can express it romantically.

A man must spoil his woman like a kid who overly requires attention. Romance shouldn’t just be affectionate but equally consistent.

True romance is premised on showing your love for each other consistently and meaningfully.

Little gestures like holding hands in public, consistent kissing and pecking and whispering sweet, funny and naughty words into each other’s ear are the act of romance that is supposed not to die between loving partners.

Wearing a lovely, attractive face by smiling is the smallest romantic gesture you can offer your partner.

The bottom line is to be consistent with those gestures so that it becomes a habit you both cannot live without.

Don’t make it an occasional act. Make it a lifestyle, not when you have things that cause joy, not even when you celebrate a win.

Exchanging affections with your spouse should be a daily routine.


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3. Compliment your partner

We all need recognition and validation. Repetition of words like I love you or you’re the best among others.

Romantic expression should be normalized in a relationship that is not intended to end soon as long as you are pleased with the action of your spouse.

Do well to make comments and positive remarks to every of his or her positive doing.

Does she do new make-up? Braid new hair, Wear a nice or new outfit?

You are, by default, the first person to pass a comment on that and make him or her have a sense of beauty. Position yourself to be his or her hypeman.

Praise what your partner does, says or looks, and every bit of effort he or she has been contributing to personal and societal development.

Don’t only praise within the confines of your relationship; do well to make the praise public.

Tell others about the greatness of your partner and let friends and family be aware of how excellent your partner has been and how he or she has been making you happy endlessly.

4. Have fun sex

Partners need sex to feel attached. It is a salient tool for having a happy relationship.

Don’t just have sex, but the kind that connects you and your partner. Sex isn’t what you can get tired of when you are in a committed relationship or marriage.

The best way to lovemaking is the one convenient for both of you. Talk and try out convenient ways of intimacy.

You both should make out with the one that perfects your taste, but upscaling and trying out a different method of intimacy is the natural way of elongating your sexual prowess.

If you put off too long on sex, it might weaken the connection, undermining the relationship.

5. Surprise your partner with a romantic weekend

Periodically arrange a weekend in an inn or park you’ve both always wanted to try out.

Don’t allow responsibilities like work, children, future targets or anything to take your attention but instead dwell on the memories you have both had.

How the relationship started and how you’ve both struggled to make it to this end, naughty things you’ve tried out in the past, childhood memories.

For story lovers, telling about folklore, legend and myths story is an excellent idea.

By this, you’ll learn to associate thrill and excitement with your partner.

6. Give surprise gifts

Do well to give your partner a gift often; give materials token of your love.

Not necessarily big things that will cost your pocket. It can be a picked-up book at a bookstore, a piece of jewelry, a nice smell of perfume, or nice classy clothing, preferably his or her colour type.

Do anything extraordinarily small or large that tells them you were thinking of them.

Besides, a love note, SMS or inscription that tells you to think about them is a reminder that you love them and care for them, making them more confident and have a secure relationship with you.

7. Be positive of your partner’s shortcomings

The first killer of a relationship is having high expectations. Your partner isn’t a robot. He or she is prone to failure and fallible.

Train each other to be better but at your own pace. Learn to recognize and appreciate each other quirks.

Talk out whatever insecurities you are both having and devise means to make better of yourselves together.

Final thought

There is no one way to be romantic with your partner. You both need to devise and design what makes you happy.

Upscale learning from friends, old couples, and relationship counselors, among others, makes a comfortable home since being romantic is happiness.

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