It is dramatically devastating seeing a guy who has once made you happy and was over you losing interest in you and distancing himself from you. It is more traumatic if it’s somebody you’ve fallen in love with and hope to work down the aisle.
Honestly, you can’t blame the guy for dropping out of love. It is natural for humans to have waves of feeling, but the waves of perpetual rise and fall in love need to be triggered by unpleasant circumstances either from you or him.
Once a guy loses interest can you get it back?
You can change his narratives and make him feel the connection he had when you two first met. There are two primary reasons a guy can decide to lose interest in you out of the blue.
Either he caught you cheating, or he can’t deal with your excesses anymore and later realizes all the attraction he has for you is a facade.
Studying what attracts and makes him interested in you in the first place is the building block to understanding why he falls out.
All hope is not lost. You can get him interested in you again, so much that the thought of him leaving or losing interest won’t have any reason to cross his mind.
Note that you will need to be patient when trying to make a guy fall back in love with you again because the wait to have him back could be longer than expected.
It takes a bit of focus, seriousness, and determination to have the love of your life return to Romeo and Juliet’s old days.
How do you get a guy interested in you again
1. Don’t rush to get him back
You are expected to be curious and want to know the cause of the sudden change in his attitude, and you would like to bombard him with many questions.
We are all humans with emotions. Maybe he is at the time emotionally, mentally, and physically unstable. Trying to pressure him may worsen the situation.
Being eager to know what is wrong may signify an act of desperation on your side. By giving him space, it will occur to him that you’re not clingy to him and have your life together.
He will most surely feel your absence because all he has are thoughts of his own and his feelings.
But giving him space is advised only when you study the situation and see no reason to open a conversation with him.
If you are at fault and cause him to lose interest in the relationship, the best is to make a proper apology and ask for genuine forgiveness.
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2. Converse with him
It may have been weeks since you longed for him to return, but you waited to no avail. At this time, you need to walk up to him and have a heart-to-heart and honest conversation devoid of emotions.
Discussing with him determines your chance. He may be disturbed by issues that have nothing to do with you. It may be his work or family giving him a hard time.
Having a genuine discussion with him and helping to get him back to his true self will give him more confidence and respect for you if it is a personal issue.
3. Have a life outside his confined
Being too obsessed with your guy without relating with others around will cost you a lot if he ever decides to leave.
The sweetness of a relationship is when you both miss each other and can’t wait to set eyes on each other soon.
Move out and do stuff with friends and associates, meet new people, and he is much more likely to come back because you are now living your life outside his shadow.
If you see him behaving differently from the norms, try to mirror your social life and make corrections where necessary.
4. Be ambitious and set goals you intend to achieve
He probably loses interest because he is disappointed in how you think, your perspective, your morality and your life goals.
Work on socially acceptable norms of life. Set dreams and consistently focus on achieving those dreams.
Also, work on your self-esteem. Your esteem may probably be getting low since you feel your man’s absence in your life.
Feeling neglected won’t do you any good but hurt your self-esteem. It would be best and less distressful if you had the confidence to scale through the disappointing phase.
He will mostly return if he sees that his exit doesn’t negatively change your lifestyle.
5. Be more engaged with social media
Guys are moved by what they see. They fall in love with the pretty face before accessing your attitudes and morals. Flaunt the social media you are both mutually on with thirst trap pictures.
Update new achievements in your life and how well you have been coping without him.
Follow social media trends and make cogent and intelligent contributions to any rising topics. By this, he will feel he is missing you, and the fear of losing you will make him run back to you.
6. Think about your Lovey-dovey days
You must have had days you feel lucky to have met him because he was the man you wished to have. You’ve given each other joy and satisfaction.
Reminisce on those days and try to deduce what causes changes in the situation.
Suppose the cause of his sudden loss of interest is your inability to perform optimally to his expectations.
For instance, maybe your sexual performance has drastically reduced with no spark like when he first met you, or you are now keeping friends he warns you against, or you have been ruthless and unapologetically blunt in the way you address him recently.
All of those have not been happening from the start of the relationship. The best is to try hard to get back to the convenient old days.
Suppose it burdens you to get back to what satisfies him. The best is to have a fruitful deliberation about it and determine whether you both can aggregate and mutually understand the new situation.
Conclusion
Remember, there are no strict manuals to what makes a good relationship, and it’s naturally designed for every relationship to pass through difficult situations.
With the above-listed points, you should better understand the best approach to get him back into the relationship if truly you’ve both been having a genuine relationship before things turn to soar.